R.E.B.T

What is REBT?
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is a form of psychotherapy created by Albert Ellis in the 1950's.

REBT (pronounced R.E.B.T. — it is not pronounced rebbit) is based on the premise that whenever we become upset, it is not the events taking place in our lives that upset us; it is the beliefs that we hold that cause us to become depressed, anxious, enraged, etc. The idea that our beliefs upset us was first articulated by Epictetus around 2,000 years ago: "Men are disturbed not by events, but by the views which they take of them."


The Goal of Happiness
According to Albert Ellis and to REBT, the vast majority of us want to be happy. We want to be happy whether we are alone or with others; we want to get along with others—especially with one or two close friends; we want to be well informed and educated; we want a good job with good pay; and we want to enjoy our leisure time.

Of course life doesn't always allow us to have what we want; our goal of being happy is often thwarted by the "slings and arrows of outrageous fortune." When our goals are blocked, we can respond in ways that are healthy and helpful, or we can react in ways that are unhealthy and unhelpful.

Do you feel 'Big'?

Everyone of us is busy preparing for Madam Jue's tribal dance performance - tonight! and most of us actually prepared till nearly 2am last night. i left earlier cuz ive past my normal sleeping hour, 11pm. haha.anyway,before the group discussion which is scheduled to start at 10pm, i managed to attend IK (Ikatan Kristian)'s last meeting for this semester. we are watching the movie 'Indescribable' and it is this strong title that moves my heart, and sprained (healing process) ankle to go to Gazebo..

DO you think you are big and important? sometimes we are so pressured with deadlines to meet, exams stress, relationship constraints, and financial problems; but the moment we compare ourselves to the almighty creation - the universe, i simply can't help feeling so SO SMALL!!! Our EARTH is just a mere little tiny miny dot, not even visible in the universe...a star is born every second. the milky way galaxy is just so beautiful out there!

Peter shared something i find very meaningful: do you ever wonder how the xilem and floem (i got the spellings wrong dy right?) works for photosynthesis in a leaf, how the blood circulate in our bodies, the heart pumping non-stop, the birds flying in the air, the streams flow; all these are the beautiful creation of our Almighty God. therefore, if only we can just stop our hectic pace for a second or two, and enjoy the amazing nature and God's creation, we'll be grateful of what God has in store for us and life will eventually turn out for the better - the beauty of Appreciation!

H1N1 = Port Dickson = Genting =)

Same spot, different gang; same Me, different feelings =)


Havn't update blog for a long long time...i've been busy, lazy, happy, excited, bored, directionless, motivated, hungry, full, tired, alert and...grateful =)

1) UPM reopens today. had been closed for the past one week due to H1N1.
sad case: august hols canceled. changed airtickets for the 3rd time..no complaints, juz hope to hv a memorable weekend back home =)



Grateful for H1N1..?? lolx..shud take it seriously.

2) Snail Methodist camp @ Port Dickson. being at the beach, listening to waves lapping, under the scorching sun, playin 'big waves blow' just wash away the blues in life =)
happy: met new friends, esp juniors. wish u all a great start at UPM. looking forward to see u guys at coming CF =)
Learnt: a sermon regarding Appreciation and Admiring things/ppl around us. give praises w sincerity. even if its raining when u were just about to dry ur clothes, u can admire how happy the plants will b to receive water fr heaven =)


Queuing for Space Shot..macho Sean decides to 'stay behind to take our photos instead'. haha

3) Genting day trip w Ed, Sean, Nana, Topek and Yvonne.
condition: can only bring RM22 w you, and no ATM card allowed.
results: i owe yvonne $ Xtra spent on Panadol ACtivefast. New corkscrew ride. outdoor themepark crowded despite its a Monday working day and H1N1.
Emotions: had GREAT FUN laughter esp at SNOW house =)

Love you, DAD! 22/07/2009 Happy Birthday! =)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY BELOVED DADDY! I LOVE YOU, SO SO MUCH!!


"Read my blog, read my blog!" Azhar was promoting his blog http://k-sangpenglipurlara.blogspot.com, telling us he has updated a hot issue regarding homosexual. feel free to drop by his blog, u wont regret =)

I find time passes very fast, back in UPM, back in kuching during holidays too...assignments are piling up, first test is approaching, and lazy bum yiing has increased her sleeping hours! hehe. Siesta~ is good to maintain a radiant complexion, agree not? haha..excuses~ good solid reason ok. haha.

Updates of my current life at UPM:
1) Practiced dancing till wee hours in the morning (exaggerate) for Theatre class, super tiring! woke up in the middle of the night due to muscle pain. but it was sure fun, all the stress (not tat i think i hv) were gone while doin the indian jumping up and down movements.

2) TheatreS! this sem we are taking the theater course, very interesting, thou i muz admit we've to put in alot of effort. anyway, for ur information, we will be producing our OWN PLAY at the end of the semester, somewhr early November. feel free to book ur air tickets now to come UPM and catch our life performances! FREE accommodation for girls (first come first serve basis)

3) Hand ball! last night, our ko-ku finally started. i had great fun sweating up, doin the interesting n funny warming up exercises, n playin the passing ball games. happily, our group won the game. haha. it's reli a nice feeling to do sports under the twinkle-twinkle-little-stars.

4) reduced part time working this semester. good thing is i'll b hvin my relaxing weekend...still wondering wad shud i do this weekend, most friends goin back to hometown..

k la, tat's all for now. jz update for fun, n write out my thoughts.

The Dash Poem

The Dash Poem
by Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end

He noted that first came the date of her birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not how much we own;
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
©1996 Linda Ellis

KHS Reunion Dinner @ The Banquet

Isn't it amazing how God gives us friends
Friends, such an important element in life
But when asked, Who is your best friend,
Not everyone can give the answer straight

Thankfully
I've came across a handful of close friends
whom i know i can turn to when i face problems
and also whom i can trust with secrets
and a pair of listening ears
if not shoulders to lean on

Time passed so fast
It has been 5 years since we left KuchingHigh
and I am so grateful
for we can still relate to each other
during this reunion dinner
and the good thing is, we come and leave in smiles

Memories came flooding back
when we look at the childhood photos
how we struggle to for the newspaper recycling competition
how we 'cheated' during ERT and wood-making
how tears dropped and huggies rewarded

My dear friends
Also to those who can't make it to this reunion dinner
i hope all of you well, happy and blessed
Bring light to the world
Be good examples for our juniors
just like how we respect our seniors

Cheers to Kuching High
Cheers to our clubs
Cheers to our teachers
Cheers to our F.R.I.E.N.D.S.H.I.P.

Esther's Baptism @ St Peter

Esther dear cousin,
Children are sweet miracles
sent by God above
To fill the world with goodness
and the blessings of his love.
May you shine radiantly in His Glory
Spread your love to the ones around you
as how He loved you so..



Warmest Regards,
Cousin Sis,
Yiing @ Ah Mei Jie Jie (^_^)