我只有对她更好，才能不让她失落

男孩结婚后对自己妻子比结婚前更好。一次聚会，朋友笑他：怎么结

婚了还那么腻。他笑着说道：结婚前，很多男生都想追她，有很多男生会对她好，我只有对她更好才能追到她；结婚后，对她好的男生越来越少，我只有对她更好，才能不让她失落。说完,所有朋友都沉默了,没有嘲笑,只有敬佩！

This world would be such a safe and beautiful place to live in IF husbands and wives are that loving towards each other. Their devotion will surely impact their kids and the circle goes. Crime rate will reduce because the kids will be brought up with moral values. Politicians will lead countries righteously and corruption won't exist. Illness, however, can't be prevented. But then again, surely all family members will be by his side and he'll either recover out of happiness or return to heavenly Father in a smile.  The poor will still be grateful and not rob because the rich will offer them food and shelter.  The lazy will wake up from their sleep and enjoy working because they are constantly looking forward to be with their loving colleagues.  The food caterers will prepare the food with a sincere heart which means they will charge reasonably and wash the vegetables few times before cooking with olive oil. The students will pay extra attention and do their homework diligently because their teachers are super patient and the thoughtful students can feel her love. The public clinics won't have long queues because the kind nurses and hardworking clerks played their roles effectively and diligently.  The brilliant scientists will not be frustrated over their failed experiments because they are so hopeful that every failure is another step towards success. API will not deteriorate and attribute bad air quality because civilized people won't commit open burning or deforestation. Females won't fear walking to car park alone or out jogging at night because 'robbery/rape/murder' didn't exist in this world.

Enough of day dreaming. Back to reality.  Meeting parents' day again.  Well, if the teacher is all that lovey-dovey, she will not complain about working on Saturdays but gleefully welcome the parents with with a cheerful heart. And the full-of-love parents' will turn up today for the sake of their students' education. And the education ministry will ... hm.. 

我只有对她更好，才能不让她失落. It all starts with giving 1% more each day, to improve a relationship.

Happy weekend to all :)

SNS

Sistem Nilaian Sarawak.

Constantly we've new things to do, to learn.  Many of us are still blur about this SNS thingy. It's basically about setting questions according to Bloom's Taxonomy (Knowledge, Comprehension, Application, Analysis, Synthesis and Evaluation), give it a status of 'Easy, Moderate, Hard' and submit to PPD as Bank Soalan.

So this morning, after the 2 hours briefing for PBS (yes, finally our school will be starting PBS for Form 1 next week) we Form 1 teachers discussed about SNS. Some teachers are very committed while some prefer the easier way out.  Is that what Steve Job mentioned about lazy people choosing the simple way out are clever?

Anyway, I'm just scribbling my thoughts here while waiting to enter Remove Class (the class I love yet fear to enter) So conclusion, we decided not to follow the morning session's format because a senior teacher pointed out their method might be less hassle, but it won't be useful as bank soalan. So yeah, lesson learned, do a good job, not just for the sake of finishing it.

10 more minutes to Remove Class. Ahh... The class is getting more out of control.  Out of 29 students, only 15 bothered to do the work, 8 supportive girls who would bring their chairs near teachers' table and pay attention. The remaining boys, arh, boys boys. Recalling my practicum days, I guess my supervisor would not blame the students, but blame me, for as their teacher, I failed to attract their attention to listen and do the tasks assigned.

If anyone of you want to experience headache, you can just enter this class (while I'm in there) and the noise they create is enough to make your head feels heavy. They just can't sit still and want to attract my attention by chasing after each other or doing arm strengthening at the door.  Also, they enjoy 'shooting basketballs'

Ringggg....

Paktology Lesson 1: Communication

"The furthest distance in a relationship is when LOVE no longer exists." - Pastor Sun Kai.

21 minutes ago, we just had ended our 6th lesson for 'Love You Won't Halt You' (Ai Ni Bu Ai Ni) Relationship night course, organized by Hock Ing Methodist Church, Kapit, on the fundamental topic 'COMMUNICATION'.

Personally, I strongly regard communication as the top priority of a relationship.  Trust, Patience, Love are important; but I just can't see myself in a relationship where there are no communication taking place.  So, here I am, sharing what I recalled.


1.  Pastor highly recommend the book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'.  I've always heard of that book but I think, it is finally the right time to ship in that book to Kapit :)

     He shared the story:  a man in Mars used the telescope to explore he stars and galaxy from Mars; while a girl in Venus used her telescope to admire the stars.  *struck!* Their eyes fixed!  Love at first sight! They decided to meet up at Earth.  haha!


2.  Change of role/status.  Men and women, we play different roles in life; but when we are home, we should put our career at office and change back to husband-wife.


    Story:  Queen Victoria came home one night.  Her husband did not open the bedroom door from her.  She knocked, he asked, "Who are you?"  She answered, "Queen Victoria."  Her husband continued to ignore and she repeatedly knocked 3 times.  Finally, she answered "I'm honey, darling."  The door immediately swung open :)


3.  Ball A--> B ---> C.  A complete circle of communication consists of these 3 ways.


    Example:


    Wife:  Lao kong, we'll be having dinner with church members at 6:40pm ya.
    Husband: (heard but didn't answer)
    Wife:  (while taking bath, asked from shower) What time is it now?
    Husband:  6:40pm (watching television)
    Wife: What time is it again?  (makeup and gets ready)
    Husband: It was 6:40pm when you showered, so should be 6:50pm now...
    Wife: Gosh, we're late!


    (Hm..not a very clear example. But, do you get the message?  It's basically, we should state our mind clearly, partner question for confirmation, and we answer again to affirm.  Remember, A - B - C. Perhaps this is for important messages, so as not to cause misunderstanding.)

4.  How would you react to your partner in the following situations?
    (a)  Angry/ disagreement.
    (b)  Happy.
    (c)  Persistent/ Stubborn.
    (d)   When you WANT something.



5..  5 ways of showing love.


    (a) Affirmation. 'Darling, you are so clever! I never thought of solving XXX with XXX." Men need more affirmation than women, agree? And when we are throwing compliments and affirmations of their strengths, it has to be sincere and honest.  He can easily sense you lying, ladies.


   (b)  Presents.  Is there anyone who doesn't love to receive presents?  Well, when we talk about presents, we do not necessarily mean Coach wristlet, Paris Honeymoon, Toyota Camry or iPhone. A birthday card with thoughtful wishes, a book you know he/she is interested in, or just a couple T-shirt will do.


  (c)  'Jing Xing' (I'm trying to think of the English term) It basically means "My eyes are only on You!',  You are my focus/priority in life.


  (d)  Service.  "Lao Kong, thank you so much for cooking xxx for dinner! I'm the luckiest woman in the world!"  "Wifey, thank you so much for the massage.  I felt so much relax now. Love you lots!"


 (e)  Physical Touch.  Mostly for husband and wives.  Couples who are not married are not advised to be physically intimate as this will not make the marriage holy nor will the marriage's first night be memorable.  Holding hands and a pat of the head will do.




Which of the above ways is your first choice? Feel free to share your thoughts. And since there are no entertainment at Kapit, I welcome you to be my Paktology coursemate via email: lucy_silverin87@hotmail.com


May God bless those singles who are ready to be in a relationship to meet your other half, communicate with each other sincerely, listen, understand each others' family background because no family is the same, and marriage is not only about 2 person, but 2 families.  And to those couples who are in a relationship, may God bless you all with trust, patience and a healthy communication.

Pride and Prejudice

Just finished reading a simplified version of Jane Austen's 'Pride and Prejudice". Mr Darcy and Elizabeth finally tied the knot :) Some of the memorable quotes:


Mr. Darcy: So this is your opinion of me. Thank you for explaining so fully. Perhaps these offences might have been overlooked had not your pride been hurt by my honesty...
Elizabeth Bennet: My pride?
Mr. Darcy: ...in admitting scruples about our relationship. Could you expect me to rejoice in the inferiority of your circumstances?
Elizabeth Bennet: And those are the words of a gentleman. From the first moment I met you, your arrogance and conceit, your selfish disdain for the feelings of others made me realize that you were the last man in the world I could ever be prevailed upon to marry.
[they look at each other for a long time as though about to kiss]
Mr. Darcy: Forgive me, madam, for taking up so much of your time.

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 Mr. Darcy: I love you. Most ardently. Please do me the honor of accepting my hand.
Elizabeth Bennet: Sir, I appreciate the struggle you have been through, and I am very sorry to have caused you pain. Believe me, it was unconsciously done.
Mr. Darcy: Is this your reply?
Elizabeth Bennet: Yes, sir.
Mr. Darcy: Are you... are you laughing at me?
Elizabeth Bennet: No.
Mr. Darcy: Are you *rejecting* me?
Elizabeth Bennet: I'm sure that the feelings which, as you've told me have hindered your regard, will help you in overcoming it.
Mr. Darcy: Might I ask why, with so little endeavor at civility, I am thus repulsed?
Elizabeth Bennet: And I might as well enquire why, with so evident a design of insulting me, you chose to tell me that you liked me against your better judgment.

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[as simple as that :) ]

Mr. Darcy: Miss Elizabeth. I have struggled in vain and I can bear it no longer. These past months have been a torment. I came to Rosings with the single object of seeing you... I had to see you. I have fought against my better judgment, my family's expectations, the inferiority of your birth by rank and circumstance. All these things I am willing to put aside and ask you to end my agony.
Elizabeth Bennet: I don't understand.
Mr. Darcy: I love you.

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[after months of agony...]

 Mr. Darcy: You must know... surely, you must know it was all for you. You are too generous to trifle with me. I believe you spoke with my aunt last night, and it has taught me to hope as I'd scarcely allowed myself before. If your feelings are still what they were last April, tell me so at once. My affections and wishes have not changed, but one word from you will silence me forever. If, however, your feelings have changed, I will have to tell you: you have bewitched me, body and soul, and I love, I love, I love you. I never wish to be parted from you from this day on.

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[this to-melt-for dialogue is not available in Oxford's version]

 [last lines]
[US version]
Mr. Darcy: How are you this evening, my dear?
Elizabeth Bennet: Very well... although I wish you would not call me "my dear."
Mr. Darcy: [chuckles] Why?
Elizabeth Bennet: Because it's what my father always calls my mother when he's cross about something.
Mr. Darcy: What endearments am I allowed?
Elizabeth Bennet: Well let me think..."Lizzy" for every day, "My Pearl" for Sundays, and..."Goddess Divine"... but only on *very* special occasions.
Mr. Darcy: And... what should I call you when I am cross? Mrs. Darcy...?
Elizabeth Bennet: No! No. You may only call me "Mrs. Darcy"... when you are completely, and perfectly, and incandescently happy.
Mr. Darcy: [he snickers] Then how are you this evening... Mrs. Darcy?
[kisses her on the forehead]
Mr. Darcy: Mrs. Darcy...
[kisses her on the right cheek]
Mr. Darcy: Mrs. Darcy...
[kisses her on the nose]
Mr. Darcy: Mrs. Darcy...
[kisses her on the left cheek]
Mr. Darcy: Mrs. Darcy...
[finally kisses her on the mouth]




To all lovers, marriage is not entrance to grave after all~ Congratulations to my 5...7 coursemates who've tied the knot, blessed marriage~! (^_^)

Reflection

45mins to attend evening service at Hock Ing Methodist Church.

Students didn't turn up for tuition this afternoon, so slept for a good 2 hours. The most energy draining household chores would be hand washing blanket. It feels so good to step on the floor we just mopped. Uninvited spiders and lizards have their 2 weeks party here.

Another... 68 days to be home. Will do bit reflection and memories storing here:

1. Photoshoot.  Thanks Yvonne, again, for realizing my 17th birthday wish. Wonder how will the album turn out to be.

2. Eye infection. Argh, the first and hopefully the last time experiencing this. It's not that bad, just it scared to have constant yellow eye discharge.  Handsome Opthalmologist, Mr Lau Tze Wen laughed at my worries, did the eye check and assured me there's no alien objects in it. (Ah, girls do sneak a glance at guys too, their name tags somemore XD )

3. Emotional breakdown. Ah, that's just exaggeration. Burst out in tears before parents due to my naive action, again --> Traffic Fine. Lesson learned: Abide the laws. Ask for a receipt upon payment.

4. Falling in love. Hah, another imaginary story. Somehow, the last few days were spent with a happier heart. It IS true that, we have the power to control our minds. And, from what I experienced, denying those incidents/people who bring you down, by being positive and mix around the right company, will heighten your spirits.

5. Swimming. Failed to hit my target of 20 laps. >.< but still, an hour happily spent! =)

6. Crocs. Finally, got a pair of comfy shoes. It's so hard to buy good shoes nowadays. Either they are too costly, or too grandma-look.

7.  Cell Group. Oh my, I've missed out alot.  A couple got married last month and will be going for their honeymoon at Japan this November :) Another couple walking down the aisle next month. Sadly, I won't be able to attend it, due to transportation problem. No road access Kapit-Sibu :(

8. Expenditure list. Few of us are attending the Ai Ni Bu Ai Relationship night class at Hock Ing Methodist Church. Our pastor assigned us to make an income-expenditure list. I just did a last minute work an hour ago, the total SHOCKS me >.<  I mean, I didn't even purchase the S3 or the Samsung Note that I started to like! How did they get married? Money from parents? Ah....Self reminder: SPEND WISELY.Seriously, worked for 4 months, but can hardly see any savings le..embarrassing..

That's all, time's up :) Happy week ahead to all :)

Sharing

To my loyal readers,

Would like to share with you, today is one of my happiest day for the past few centuries. You ask me why? I'd say, friends. Not just any friends who never greet you on FB, but true friends who are willing to spend their time chatting with you, sharing jokes, sharing stories, making you feel life is worth living.

So thank you, my guardian angels :)  I wish our friendships will last till the next generation. haha!

Good night and happy weekend to you all :)

Farewell

Separation is just an ill feeling. Though it's just a short period of time, but I truly appreciate what we've been through together.  You've entered my life, brought light and colours, I've grown to like you. Wish you well. Keep in touch, god bless!